If you’ve spent years trying to think your way into peace, it makes complete sense that you’re tired. When overthinking and perfectionism have been your primary tools for coping, your mind has been working overtime in an attempt to keep you safe, competent, and in control. These patterns aren’t evidence that something is wrong with you — they’re evidence that your nervous system adapted the best way it knew how. At some point, control became synonymous with safety, and self-criticism became a way to stay ahead of disappointment, rejection, or failure.