You reread the text. You check their tone. You ask a friend. Then another friend. Maybe you search online. Maybe you replay the conversation in your head looking for evidence that you didn't do something wrong.And eventually, you might find yourself wondering:“Why can't I just trust the answer?”If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Constant reassurance-seeking is a common response to anxiety, uncertainty, insecurity, and difficult past experiences. And importantly, it doesn't mean you're needy, annoying, or incapable of handling things on your own.Often, reassurance-seeking is an attempt to feel safe and certain when something inside you feels uncertain.The problem is that reassurance can work really well in the short term—which can make your brain want even more of it in the long term.